Marriage Trouble and the Divorce Dilemma

Are you having marriage trouble but still want to save your marriage? If you are going through a low point in your marriage, you may be feeling frustrated, powerless and unhappy with your situation. If you are thinking about divorce, you should also know the results of choosing this path as an escape from your marriage trouble. Maybe you think that divorce will be a relief from your painful marriage. Maybe you are hoping the divorce choice can offer you a second chance at romance, a fresh start, peace and tranquility. But actually, it can create intense pain and despair that can linger for years.

"However often marriage is dissolved, it remains indissoluble. Real divorce, the divorce of heart and nerve and fiber, does not exist, since there is no divorce from memory." - Virgilia Peterson

Stick Through the Marriage Trouble and Stay Married

Children are better off with parents that are still married (except in extreme conflict ridden families).

Married people are happier, less depressed, have better sex lives, engage in fewer high risk activities, live longer

Those in happier marriages are more productive employees having better success in professional lives.

60% of second marriages end in divorce.

Married men make better fathers.

Friends May Make Your Marriage Trouble Worse

Well meaning friends are there to support you but may not be impartial because they only hear your side of the story. People that love you want to make you feel better and don’t need to be objective. By siding with you, their advice just creates bigger gaps in your relationship. If you need someone to talk to, pick a friend who is in a relationship and committed to its success. He will make a better guide to you because he understands what it takes to work at a relationship.

When you have Children, Exs never Disappear

Once you have children, your wife will never disappear out of your life. You will hear about her life through day-to-day discussion with your children. During the highlights of your life, your daughter’s wedding or the birth of a grandchild, she will be there experiencing it with you. Since she will always be a part of your life, make sure you do everything in your power in your efforts to save your marriage before you call it quits.

Blame’s Not the Answer to Marriage Trouble

When you experience marital problems, most likely the problems relate to how you interact. It is not that one person has a problem. You both have relationship habits that contribute to your marriage trouble. No matter how much you want to blame your spouse for the problems, they rest with both of you. Delve into the issues, work them out together, because there is a good chance they will only resurface again with someone else.

Turn off the TV

You need to realize that Hollywood doesn’t glamorize good marriages. Because often marriage is about paying bills, making dinner, helping kids with homework. There’s nothing sexy about that. Hollywood focuses on the excitement of a man and women first meeting, their infatuation, their wild sex. It doesn’t usually focus on a “happily ever after part” – the five, ten, twenty years into the marriage.

Empowerment

Marriages have ups and downs. Working through the difficult times in your marriage will bring you power and strength and will truly be one of your life’s most meaningful accomplishments. Running away from problems will contribute to your feelings of weakness and insecurity about your relationships with women and your ability to succeed in marriage.

Reconciliation Likelihood

Did you know that 15% of divorcees end up remarrying their spouse? If you are going through a difficult time in your marriage, weather the storm. It would be a much better option than dealing with the pain and trust issues associated with divorce and reconciliation.