Conversation Starter Ideas for Successful Dating

Do you need conversation starter ideas to help make your date a success? Does the idea of sitting across from a woman on a date with nothing to say terrify you? Or maybe you just want to go on a date and make sure you learn as much as you can about her to decide if you want a second date. Having great conversation with a woman and really connecting with her will make for an enjoyable date. Arm yourself with some conversation topic ideas from the list below to get the most out of your dating experience.

Get Her Talking

If you know in advance a conversation topic she is passionate about, bring it up and get her talking.

Current Events

Current events are a great conversation starter. If there is ever a lull in the conversation, you can bring up something you read about in the paper that morning. It works for Jay Leno and other talk show hosts in their pre-show warm-ups.

Really Listen

People like to talk about themselves. The most important tip on conversation techniques is to ask her questions and really listen.

Balance Conversation

Keep the conversation balanced. You want to ask her questions and be a good listener, but you also need to share things about yourself. She will have a more enjoyable time if she has a chance to get to know you better by allowing you a chance to talk.

Choose the Right Topic

Pick a conversation starter that isn't too controversial, and if your conversation is getting too heated (e.g. religion) take the conversation in a new direction.

Know When to Move On

When you ask a question, try to develop the topic further if it seems interesting. Try a few topics and see where they lead. If a conversation topic doesn’t seem of interest to her, try something else.

Conversation Lull

Don’t worry about a lull in conversation. You can comment about your surroundings, the weather, or just enjoy the silence.

Ask Her About her Family

We all have family so asking her about her family is a great conversation starter. You can ask her one question “Does she have siblings?” and as you delve deeper, you may ask more questions “Is she the oldest, youngest? Is she close to her family? What are her favorite childhood memories? Who is she most like, her mother or her father?”

Ask Her About Her Job

Ask her what she does for a living? What made her pick that career? What does she like most about it? If she loves her job, she will love talking about it. If she doesn’t seem that excited about talking about her job, take notice. Does she see herself staying with her career or ever doing something completely different? See if you can delve into what her true dreams and aspirations are in life.

Ask Her About Her Hobbies

Some of us get so wrapped up in work, we don’t even know what are hobbies are anymore. Try to find out. Does she read books? Does she watch tv to relax? What programs? Does she exercise? What keeps her motivated to stay fit? Does she cook, what are her favorite foods?

Ask Her About Her Travel Experiences

So what does she do when she takes time off from work? Does she spend time visiting family, or does she travel. Where has she visited? What was it like? What did she spend her time doing? Sight-seeing, laying on the beach, enjoying nature, etc. This is another conversation starter to find out more about her through her vacation interests.

"Listening is the shortest route to the heart" - Dianna Booher