Tips to A Better Sex Life

Has she lost interest in sex? Do you want a better sex life? Believe it or not, most women are less than satisfied with their man’s performance. But less sex won’t solve the problem. A better sex life is the solution. A lot of times we hear that a man needs to ask the woman what he needs to do to sexually satisfy her. Sometimes she doesn’t know herself and may have difficulty telling you or showing you. You need to help her to be fully satisfied with the sexual experience. You can do that by understanding her better.

Men and Women are Different

Realize that men and women respond to the sex in different ways. For men, it is more for physical gratification, for women it is about oneness.

Emotional Importance to Women

A woman’s foreplay is more than the sexual act itself. It involves talking, touching and spending time together. A romantic dinner, a walk, holding hands are all part of the lovemaking experience for a woman. She’s looking for an emotional as well as physical experience. When there is friendship, sensitivity, romance and affection – physical love will occur.

Cavemen Stay in Your Cave

Women don’t like the cavemen mentality. Don’t ignore her all night as you watch a football game and expect to make love when you head to bed. She doesn’t want to feel as if the only time you want her is for one purpose only. Show affection to your wife without expecting it to turn into a physical act. Show her affection. Loving and cherishing her will lead to a better sex life.

She has a Memory Like an Elephant

Where a man experiences a sexual experience as separate from the last, a woman generally does not. Each of her lovemaking experiences builds on the last one. If the last time she made love with her husband it was an exciting experience, she will look forward to the next one with anticipation. If on the other-hand it was unsatisfying, she will be less enthusiastic.

Women Want Sex When They Feel Sexy and Desirable

Compliment her, tell her she’s beautiful, buy her a sexy dress and tell her you thought she’d look beautiful in it, kiss her a lot in a no-strings-attached way. (Surveyed women said guys –especially married guys – don’t kiss enough!)

Women Like Variety

Women don’t want sex the same way every time. If you approach her the same time on the same day every week looking for sex, the anticipation of the boring sex to follow may be turning her off. Try initiating sex on a different day, a different time, a different location. From one woman “The best sex I ever had was in the car – the spontaneity was an amazing turn-on.”

Drive her Wild with Anticipation

She wants to be seduced. Try slow and easy with touching, holding, little kisses and nibbles, dirty talk in her ear. Tell her she is beautiful, her body feels good, how much you love her.

Set Aside Time Together

If you have small children, get a babysitter and take her out on a date. Spend time together by taking walks together, doing chores together, going shopping together. A way to a better sex life may have to start by spending quality time together.

Communication

Talk to her. Tell her that sex is one of the ways you express love to her and it is important part of the relationship. Ask her what you can do to fulfill her needs and provide her with a better sex life. Suggest some ideas from “Spicey Sex” and see what might interest her. If there are problems in the relationship, see “Marriage Help”